Tips & Support

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It’s natural to arrive a little nervous to a speed dating event, particularly if you have never been speed dating before and don’t know what to expect. Trust me, after the first speed date or two (and after the first drink or two!) you will realise it’s a really fun and easy going singles event with other friendly singles. Everyone is in the same boat – they want to meet new people just like you for friendship and dating. So, relax and smile. There is a famous saying that goes “smile and world smiles with you”. This may seem like really obvious dating advice but this really is the most helpful of all tips for speed dating! You’ll be surprised how often guests say “I liked so and so but they were a bit serious about it all”. Singles who are smiling and laughing give off positive energy and attract others towards them. Dating nights are fun, so always go with an open mind and a big smile.
Speed dating questions – Try to avoid talking about work!
Some of the very best speed dating tips we give singles is to avoid talking about work. Do you have a professional job? Well, so will 95% of the rest of the room. Unless you’ve got a job as a Nail Polish Namer or a professional Waterslide tester. It’s best to leave out the details of what makes you similar to every other person in the room. Although it’s nice to hear what people do to get a sort of background picture, don’t spend every precious minute on your mini-date explaining how you’ve just taken on a new complex position that might bore your date. You want to be memorable and have time fly by leaving your date wanting more. You never want your date to feel like time stood still as they cried on the inside. It’s more interesting to find out what your date does when they are not at work. Super keen to travel through Asia? Like spending Sundays floating around vintage markets? Ever eaten so much food that you threw up in the elevator? Great! That might be more interesting than talking about your day job. It’s also not a good look to come with a scripted set of speed dating questions, but it wont hurt to have a few up your sleeve in case the odd conversation dries up.
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Come with an open mind
Make sure you are sitting down before you read this next sentence: you probably won’t meet Ryan Gosling or Lucy Liu at your singles event. Sorry! You will, however, meet new people who aren’t in your normal circle. Give the someone a chance, even if they are not your ‘typical’ cup of tea. Maybe your ‘type’ isn’t working out for you?
What to wear speed dating
The best dating advice I can give any single men or single women is to dress to impress. Dress as if you were going on a first date. After all, you are going on 10-20 first dates all in one night! First impressions really count at speed dating and singles parties. It’s better to be a bit overdressed than underdressed. At Love or Like, we choose cozy venues, and we recommend dressing in line with the venues guidelines. Some request no denim, it’s best to check each venue policy before attending. A lot of single professionals come straight from work so are in smart suits and dresses. What to wear speed dating women – a nice dress and heels is a great option, but also make sure you are comfortable too. Don’t be afraid to wear a statement necklace or brightly coloured accessory to stand out and be memorable. Men – nice shoes, smart jeans and a tailored collared shirt is always a winning combo! Think that no one ever notices shoes? Ladies do.
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Important speed dating tip for men:
Book your singles event ticket in advance!
Single women tend to book in advance, and single men often leave booking dating events to the last minute. Spontaneous you say? Here’s how booking last minute actually leads to imbalanced singles events. If ladies places are sold out, this often means there are women on the waiting list, but we need more guys to book first. If you leave your booking till on the day, when we contact the waitlist they have made other plans or it’s too late notice. Basically, the earlier you book, the more single women you will meet.
Don’t drink too much
Nobody likes a pretty girl with a foul drunken pirate mouth. It’s easy to knock back a couple of cocktails as liquid courage but don’t overdo it. Especially if you’re coming straight from work on an empty stomach. I once saw a girl vomit during her last speed date. True story! It wasn’t sexy. Or funny.
Try more than one speed dating event
Singles nights are a numbers game. Sometimes you fancy 1 guy, sometimes you fancy 4 guys and sometimes you don’t fancy anyone. If you don’t fancy anyone you can come again for free speed dating under the guarantee we offer. Try a few singles events to increase your chances of finding your perfect match. Around 80% of singles get at least one match, and while these are good odds, remember that for 20% of guests it just wasn’t their night. 
Check in
Most guys arrive on their own to dating nights, which is totally fine. You are there to meet single women after all and can hang out after the event if you like. As soon as you sign in with the host, join the other guys at the bar and say hi. Single ladies love seeing guys chatting and having a laugh before the event starts. It makes you seem friendly and approachable. As most ladies arrive in a pair, you then have nice equal numbers to join up before/after the dating event. When you are asked ‘how do you two know each other’ you can say you just met randomly that night which proves you are a really social, friendly person. It’s a big deal for single women to introduce potential boyfriends to their friends. If she can see you can hold your own, you’ve got a pretty good chance of scoring a like.
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Contact your friendship and dating matches
Ladies are far more conservative than guys on the kicking front. If they are a bit unsure they sometimes tick ‘friend’ instead of ‘date’. This is why guys tend to get less love match ticks than women. Get in touch anyway, it could still be worth meeting up, or getting a group of mates together for a low-pressure night out and see what happens.

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